Dive into Anime World

No Comments August 31st, 2014 The Life

Lately, I watched many anime series and movies, with many different genres. Well, it’s not something new for sure, but the number of anime I watched currently increased at somewhat high rate. Perhaps it’s at a rate that may disturb my daily activity if it keeps increasing, but I’m sure I still have control over it. Anyway, let’s talk about it a little.

For some people, anime doesn’t suit their taste, since the drawing is weird, usually with big eyed characters, small and overly cute face, overly slender body or curvy with nice pair of breasts, high tone or annoying way of speaking, and some weird behavior or even weird story. Those were what I thought several years ago before I used to all characters. Some of my friends also has the rejection over anime with the similar reasons, so I think what I wrote almost surely applied to general people who oppose to watch anime regularly.

My anime hobby (or perhaps addiction, though I believe I’m not in a level of addiction) usually triggered when I read some online articles about the anime itself or simply when I know about it from a certain source, which recently is Osu!, a rhythm game which mainly use anime songs for the content, and show many arts and animations in the background as we are playing the song.

I must admit that several animes that I saw were far more than my initial expectations. Umm, usually I had negative expectations from animes, which may simply because the story might be easily guested, or the character is lame and perhaps just too much fan services, i.e. scenes that provide the audiences some “happy” content, like breast jiggling or panty shots. Lately many anime doesn’t use much light story or fan services anymore, instead the writers are creative enough to create story twist which may expand your regular thought. However, they still have light fan services though, but enough for fun and not causing hindrance in characters or stories.

Some of the animes brought the popular culture on their story, such as Sword Art Online (SAO), which the season one just I finished watch recently. The story is about the MMORPG which operated with virtual reality devices, with some story twist, realistic MMO experience (if you are an MMO player, you might have know almost every rule there), and lovely beautiful romance. Initially SAO doesn’t actually attract me to watch even I have heard or read the articles about it, but my curiosity is strong enough to make me watch this anime, and it’s not disappointing for sure. Well, I also should admit it since someone tell me a clue that the story might be interesting several days ago, and at the same time, my housemate have that anime in his possession.

Another anime that have nice story which you may not expected if you have not watch it is Puella Magi Madoka Magica, which tells about several magical girls with the problems that they should solve. The story of this one is so dark that you may think and think and think when you have finished the anime series, and perhaps you may want to watch the movie which is the continuity of anime series. From what I experienced after watched this anime, I will not have the same view again on the magical girls genre. Usually, the magical girls genre is so weird for me since the target should be female audiences or children, but this one is far from that target, although the art and characters are somewhat represent the childish. Anyway, watch it and you may understand what I mean, since I don’t want to spoil anything here. It will destroy your general views on magical girls genre which have been known to be happy ending, like Sailor Moon or Wedding Peach (old school anime series which I watched when I was in elementary school).

Well, there are many more anime that I have watched, but still limited enough so I can list them here, of course the recommended only:

  • Sword Art Online (I have described it above, generally fun and have good and deep romance, based on light novel)
  • Puella Magi Madoka Magika (also described above, really sad and dark, not suitable for children or easily depressed person)
  • Hataraku Maou-sama (about a demon king which transferred to human world and works at a restaurant chain, really funny, based on light novel)
  • No Game No Life (about a world where every conflict should be resolved with games, funny and has heavy plot, based on light novel)
  • A Certain Magical Index / Toaru Majutsu no Index (a story about magic and technology / science, the dark world behind it and struggle of the people who has the power, based on light novel)
  • A Certain Scientific Railgun / Toaru Kagaku no Railgun (a side story of Index above, which mainly focused in the scientific side, have funny plot and some sweet romance, based on the same light novel)
  • Tokyo Ghoul (about a humanoid species which resemble vampires that roams the city of Tokyo, dark and bloody, though many parts are censored since they’re far too gory)
  • Full Metal Alchemist (if you follow the manga, this simply a spin off and doesn’t follow the manga story)
  • Full Metal Alchemist: Brotherhood (this one is following the manga story, so if you want to see the anime version of the manga, this one is for you)
  • Kill la Kill (about the struggle of a girl who want to avenge the father dead, the story and arts are weird, uncommon and unrealistic, but still fun enough to be followed)

If you read the summary above, many of them are based on light novel. A light novel itself is Japanese style novel which published regularly. I have researched about it a little and found that many of the novels have been adapted to animes. That’s why I would really like to read the novel itself since many of the animes now only covered early chapters, mainly less than 10 chapters when the novels have published in about 10 or 20 chapters.

That’s what I can tell about anime. If you have recommendation about what animes I should watch, please inform me. I love animes that have nice and uncommon story like what I listed above. And if you a newbie in anime, or just want to try to change your view in anime, you might want to try the animes above. ;)


Nightmare Diary #1

Lately I have several weird dreams, well, some people might called it as nightmares. I don’t really understand the pattern of this kind of dreams, but I’m sure it appears about every 3 or 4 days. Usually it is about failed relationship, or simply a massive accident or disaster that happens to a group of people.  I’m not sure if the nightmares were triggered by a certain event or what, since the pattern is kind of regular, which of course I can use to manage.

The latest nightmare (tonight) is about a group of high school children who have tour with a big bus on the beach. I don’t understand why but the bus itself driven into the shore area which have some extensively tilted position. For that kind of bus, the body cannot stay still when it was in that kind of position, however the driver kept driving at the same dangerous approaches again and again. Then the horror event occurred, the bus couldn’t hold itself on tilted sand and finally tumbled into the sand. To make it even worse, the sand was quicksand and the sea water was rising, that meant the bus’ body drowned fast into the ground.

I myself who didn’t go with that bus, but a bystander that witnessed that event, ran into that bus and tried to dig the sand with my bare hand. I didn’t see any other people around there initially, but several minutes into digging (well, not sure  if it’s minutes or just seconds), which the sand ridiculously transformed into paving blocks, I found several nostalgic items from the past. Many of them are things from my high school memories, such as the leaflets from high school events, namecards of some different people, high school bags, etc. The people gathered around that place, which consists of some my high school friends which I recognized, looked into the found items, laughed and had chat. I kept digging the paving blocks, several layers of them, thrown away them one by one but the bus still didn’t appear until I fell into despair and stopped.

That was when I woke up, opened my eyes and couldn’t sleep anymore and decided to write this post instead. Well, though I also set an alarm to wake me up early this morning to do some of my works an hour later, that was why I didn’t want to go sleep again.

The nightmare for this night in fact really intense since it’s about tragedy with many people. Several latest nightmares I had were mainly about relationships which also ended up as bad ending or weird tragedy, but nothing were as intense as this latest one. In fact, usually I didn’t really concerned with the previous dreams, and fell asleep immediately after I woken up, but this one is kinda different since it’s about disaster with many “people” within it. Sigh… I hope one day I will be able to induce lucid dreams instead of this weird dreams. I feel my energy drained because of this nightmare, hopefully I can still do my work properly this day.

Regarding the number on the title, perhaps I will write more about the nightmares (as long as I remember them), just to ensure the pattern, so I can manage it. Ugh, self management, especially for something ridiculous like this is burdening >_< Will be glad if this could end up, or at least doesn’t happen regularly like lately.

Good Luck?

Ketika seseorang mau melakukan sesuatu yang cukup besar, berisiko atau menantang, misalnya wawancara kerja, ujian, atau mengejar jodoh, kadang kala kita mendengar orang lain mengucapkan “Good Luck”, atau kalau dibahasakan ke Bahasa Indonesia menjadi “semoga beruntung”. Yup, semoga beruntung, alias hoki, atau kalau mau menggunakan kebalikannya, maka “semoga tidak sial”. Sejujurnya dulu saya sendiri sudah menyadari maknanya tersebut, tapi ah, biarlah, toh memang kadang saya perlu keberuntungan atas apa yang saya lakukan.

Beberapa bulan belakangan, saya menghadapi cukup banyak masalah yang bisa dibilang tidak mudah saya hadapi, khususnya masalah sosial. Bila Anda sekalian membaca post-post saya sebelumnya, tentunya yang ada dalam Bahasa Inggris, maka Anda akan mengerti bahwa masalah saya berhubungan dengan perasaan. Tapi jangan salah, masalah yang saya maksudkan di sini lebih ke masalah pekerjaan, yang membutuhkan rasionalitas dibanding hanya menerka-nerka atau mencoba-coba seperti masalah jodoh.

Ketika saya dihadapi oleh kesulitan, seringkali saya mendengar teman-teman saya mengatakan “GL alias Good Luck” tersebut, tapi entah kenapa saya merasa ga nyaman dengan sebutan tersebut. Seperti yang saya tuliskan di atas, kecenderungan kata tersebut seperti menganggap bahwa saya hanya akan berhasil bila saya memiliki keberuntungan yang besar. Padahal bila saya cek diri saya, keburuntungan saya hampir ga ada sama sekali. Saya belum pernah menang judi, belum pernah mendapatkan hadiah undian, belum pernah mendapatkan tiba-tiba uang saya di bank bertambah sendiri; bagaimana bisa mereka meminta saya untuk mengandalkan keberuntungan? Tapi tetap, walau demikian, saya mengapresiasi kata-kata teman saya tersebut, yang sebagian besar mungkin tidak tahu mengenai makna di baliknya, dan juga tidak mengetahui bahwa saya tidak terlalu suka mendengar kata tersebut.

Lalu apa yang bisa dikatakan oleh rekan-rekan saya tersebut? Sebenarnya banyak alternatif ucapan lainnya yang tidak terlalu mengandalkan “kekuatan alam dan ilahi” tersebut, misalnya saja, “selamat berjuang” atau “semoga sukses”. Dalam Bahasa Inggris juga bisa disebutkan “do well” (lakukan yang terbaik), “all the best” (sama, lakukan yang terbaik), atau “finger crossed” (silangkan jari). Saya mendapatkan frase tersebut dengan mudah dari pencarian Google dengan menggunakan kata kunci “good luck alternatives”.

Saat pencarian tersebut (sebenarnya sudah cukup lama saya mencari alternatifnya), saya menemukan ternyata tidak sedikit orang yang menghindari menggunakan kata-kata yang bermuatan mistis tersebut, alias keberuntungan. Mungkin karena sudah lekat di telinga orang Indonesia, banyak dari kita yang lebih mengandalkan kata “good luck”, dibanding alternatif-alternatif tersebut, dan akhirnya menjadi terbiasa dengan kata tersebut, baik sebagai pendengar maupun sebagai pengucap. Tidak ada masalah dengan kata tersebut, hanya memang sebagian kecil orang seperti saya sedikit sensitif atas penggunaan kata-kata yang kurang tepat dalam keseharian. Pada akhirnya hal itu kembali kepada masing-masing orang sebagai preferensi :)

Oh iya, bagi saya tentu saja “good luck” bukan sesuatu yang dapat dengan mudah dihilangkan. Kata ini bisa digunakan sebagai sarkasme terhadap orang yang tidak kita suka. Misalnya saja:

A: Hei, saya bisa mengerjakan semua pekerjaan yang harusnya diselesaikan dalam 14 hari dalam semalam saja. Jadi biarin lah saya main sebentar, oke?

B: Oh, gitu ya? Kalau gitu good luck yah!

A: Sip.

Dalam kasus di atas, keberuntungan memang sangat diperlukan, apalagi Anda tahu bahwa si A bukan orang yang mampu mengerjakan dalam 1 hari dan hanya keberuntungan yang bisa menyalamatkan dia. Yah, terkadang saya menggunakan kata tersebut untuk diri saya sendiri yang dalam beberapa kejadian lebih memilih untuk menunda pekerjaan sampai akhirnya harus berjuang keras di hari terakhir. Hhhhh… Kebiasaan yang memang tidak boleh terus menerus dilanjutkan, dan tentu saja hanya memerlukan niat untuk menghilangkannya.

Lalu bagaimana bila Anda tidak suka dengan frase tersebut diucapkan oleh orang lain? Bagaimana caranya mengatakannya kepada teman kita tersebut? Masa kita bilang frontal, “maaf, saya ga perlu keberuntungan karena saya punya skill dan kemampuan untuk menghadapi masalah tersebut”? Kalimat tersebut seolah-olah membuat kita terlihat sombong karena, yup, kadang bagi mereka menggunakan kemampuan sendiri adalah sombong, apalagi di negara agama seperti Indonesia di mana kuasa ilahi masih merupakan sebuah kewajiban yang disertakan dalam setiap kegiatan yang kita lakukan. Tapi memang kadang kita perlu seperti itu bila memang mau dilihat sebagai orang yang rasional.

Cara lainnya yang bisa kita lakukan adalah menghindari kata tersebut dari diri kita sendiri. Bila kita terbiasa menggunakan kalimat lain, beberapa orang yang cukup sensitif akan dapat menangkap maksud dari kita bahwa kita memang menghindari kata tersebut. Tentu saja ini hanya untuk orang-orang yang cukup sensitif untuk dapat mencerna maksud Anda tersebut. Bila bertemu orang yang kurang sensitif, katakan saja dengan sedikit bercanda, “jangan good luck lah, kalau ga hoki gimana coba, ‘sukses selalu’ aja mendingan”, atau kalau perlu dengan kalimat pertama yang saya katakan tadi. Toh bila orangnya kurang sensitif, dia juga bukan tipe orang yang mudah tersinggung atau berpikiran macam-macam kepada Anda.

Jadi secara tak langsung, mari kita budayakan saja menghindari ucapan “good luck” tersebut, dan ganti menjadi “semoga sukses” atau “all the best” bila Anda ingin sedikit terlihat keren karena Bahasa Inggris. :)

Entry ini ditulis oleh seseorang yang cukup sensitif terhadap kata-kata yang diucapkan orang. Bersikaplah lebih sensitif (empati) kepada orang sensitif, karena sewaktu-waktu Anda akan mendapatkan balasan yang setimpal atas empati Anda tersebut.

PS: Sekali-kali pakai Bahasa Indonesia aja untuk posting blog ini, berhubung sebentar lagi 17 Agustus, jadi harus lebih nasionalis dengan penggunaan Bahasa Indonesia yang baik dan benar, dan sedikit gaul. Hehehe… Ga juga, ke depannya akan ada beberapa post yang menggunakan bahasa ibu pertiwi koq. Kadang penggunaan bahasa menjadi dilema bagi saya mengingat saya ingin terus meningkatkan kemampuan Bahasa Inggris tertulis, tapi di sisi lain tetap ingin dapat menulis dengan cepat. Yup, menulis menggunakan Bahasa Inggris memerlukan waktu yang lebih lama daripada menggunakan Bahasa Indonesia seperti ini, apalagi kadang saya masih harus menambah perbendaharaan bahasa saya serta berkali-kali mengecek (proofread) tulisan saya supaya memiliki grammar dan structure yang benar.

What is Love

Well, I don’t really like to write about my love and relationship on my blog as if I don’t know that I already old enough for this kind of crap, but still my mind keeps tell me to write what I think before I fall into deeper depression. I’m not the kind of man that is easily depressed because of love… Well, perhaps I am. It’s simply because I can’t easily leave my past after it happened. So if you think this entry is immature or inappropriate since it is my personal thought, or doesn’t meet your personal expectation because you need more information about me since this is my personal website, I kindly ask you to stop reading now and find another interesting article in the web instead, or read another post in another category that’s available In this blog.

“Baby don’t hurt me, don’t hurt me no more.” perhaps is the best answer for the title question.

On the previous post, I wrote about a girl, the third girl I met, which gave enough impact to me lately. Actually, the impact is far too strong and affected me until now. I still keep thinking about her, and even I always keep trying to get noticed by her.

I keep thinking about her but don’t have enough courage to make any contact to her. I just afraid I will end up disappointed with her replies, make her upset to me because I keep bothering her. I think it’s my selfishness so that I end up always want to bother her, despite of the fact that I almost never have chats lately. In the end I bothered more people in a chat group where she is one of the members, just because I want her attention. Sigh… I should just thinking more about other people before did that.

Some people will say, “grow your balls and text her!”, but it’s not as easy as they think. I had issues with her in the past which developed into a big barrier for my relation with her. Then why don’t you solve the issues and patch up your relationship with her? I’ve tried but I kept creating new other issues after that. It keeps repeating and perhaps annoyed her so much that she might think it’s better not to have any relation with me, or even worsen her thought about males in general. I can’t really guest what’s on her mind now, probably she doesn’t even really care about those issues since I’m not “somebody” for her. Who knows.

Sometimes I wish I can be more like other males who can easily moves on and search for other females. Instead I just want to prove to her that I can be the one for her, but still I’m stuck because I’m afraid. I’m afraid that I will cause her depressed about her future. I’m afraid that I will hurt her. I’m afraid that I will affect her in wrong way. I’m afraid that I cannot protect her and support her when she needs me. I’m afraid that some hurtful words will be spoken from her mouth just because she feels despair in me. I’m afraid the relationship will be ended up as what has happened in the past with my previous relationship.

The more I think about this, the more I realize that I have done something wrong. If I really love someone, I should simply let her happy. If they are happy but I don’t feel that happiness, it’s perhaps just lust or temporary love. Even if she dates another guy, I should be happy, at least I know that her mind has been changed and she can trust other males, though I know I will feel sad in reality. I just wonder that her smile will brighten everyone’s day, that’s the power of happiness.

Somehow, as a single guy, I wonder that it will be better if I don’t meet any single girls. It just hurt me more and make me feel responsible on what has happened around them. However, it’s part of experience that I will get, so it should not really matter if I think it thoroughly. Sadness, happiness, hope, despair, acceptance, rejection, for something called love is always worthy for your life lessons not matter how hard that lessons are. It teaches us how to behave to another person who is precious to you and you treasured her so much.

Perhaps I will not go to try to make any special relationship with another girl for some time since I feel betrayed and afraid for relationship lately. In fact, even since I have just get acquainted to a new girl, I just can’t keep my communication up with that girl lately, not because I’m lazy, but because I don’t have faith that the relationship will end up in the right direction, especially I get acquainted to her just because I have that relationship target to begin with. It just felt wrong.

Lastly, I will keep that good memory of her and hopefully my faith in girls in general can be restored, as with her faith to guys in general can also be restored. In the end, from what has happened in the past, for every girl that I have feeling towards who I wrote in this blog or other media, it will not ended up in “happy ending”, so I will just accept that fate as long as she is happy with her life. :D

PS: Oh, before I forgot, I’ve been said by some people that posts like this are immature, and if you think the same, I would like to thank you. Just let me decide what’s mature or immature for myself because the value of maturity is different between each people. You can say someone who are kept hurt by other people who can keep calm and don’t do any retaliation is mature, but for me it’s just as plain stupid as being raped but simply accepted it when it’s happen. I would rather write what I need to write and spill out what are on my mind rather than keep it and let it rotten, which may cause me to being depressed. Yeah, I know it’s not a fairy tale, which when she knows I wrote about my feeling and somehow –with miracle– she read this post and ended up fall in love in me. That’s why I wrote that this will not ended up as happy ending, at least for me.

Why Women Lies

The title is a question for me and perhaps for many men in this world. I don’t know if many women will ask similar questions about men, but I believe men are more easily to be understood and perhaps vulgarly honest in some condition (well, unless it’s unpleasant to be honest like… cheating?).

Let me tell a short story about a man and his relationship, and you will understand what I’m going to talk about, but perhaps going to be confused more with women :D

There was a boy, who has just broken the relationship with his girlfriend. This man never have confidence to make his girlfriend feels happy, but the girl always encourages him that she was happy with this boy. One day, a problem happened and quarrel was inevitable, and with just one sentence: “I wonder if I will always suffered when I live with you”, the boy lost his thought and always thinking that sentence again and again. Although he tried to forget about that sentence, but he couldn’t. Until one day he decided to end the relation with this girl.

After several months of being single, he met a girl who was in the same workplace with him. They communicated casually as friends and work partner, and for this boy, she looked nice and pretty. Interest was grown in the heart of this boy, but the girl never spoken the fact that she had a boyfriend. It was when the boy knew about that, he stopped his attempts to know more and had interest on her, and finally he could accepted her as a friend instead.

Later, this boy met another girl who was the friend of the first girl. Actually, she was also went to the same workplace as him. Initially, the boy doesn’t have any interest with her, simply because of the gossip that she had a boyfriend. However after several communication and messaging with her, she revealed that she had just broken up with his boyfriend because her boyfriend cheated on her. With this experience of broken heart, she began to ask the boy many questions about men, and many were answered as he could.

The communication continued and everything went nice, at least from the boy’s perspective. Two months later, the boy revealed that he might be interested in her despite he didn’t sure she might be good enough for him to continue to the next level of relationship, but she answered that she didn’t have any interest in him. Although he disappointed with the answer, he accepted that fate and tried to fix the awkwardness he might cause that day. The feeling was not something that can be easily removed, and after several months, he still had that feeling to her.

The most annoying part of the friendship with this girl was that she always told that she doesn’t want to have boyfriend or any relationship, perhaps for the entire of her life, because men and boys are jerks. One time even a simple conversation ended up because she happen to tell him that she suddenly hate boys that time. Simply because she could not accept her fate in the past that she was cheated by an asshole, so that she decided to label every men as assholes. The boy had many arguments with her about relationship, and one time he even said something mean to her that she was a liar, just because he saw her many times went with other boys and happy with them. Perhaps it was driven by jealousy. Still, it was something that should not be said by a man who doesn’t have any special relation with the woman.

In the end, he realized that everything the girl told was her own responsibility, not other’s. If it was her who lied to other people, why should he care? She is the one who will shoulder the lies she told for all of her entire life. It would be easy if he can just move on and pretend don’t care, but he can’t.

Actually, the boy just want to show his care to her, but everything he done was wrong, and sometimes even malicious to her. He couldn’t control the emotion, and couldn’t control what to tell and what not to tell to her. Everything he writes since that day is just seems wrong. Regretful feeling is not something that can fix anything that happened in the past. He can only hope if there is second chance to fix what he done in the past.

End of story.


It was a short story about me that happened several months ago. I’m not sure if I have done something terrible and repent for what I’ve done. Perhaps I’m just overthinking about what women / girls done to me, and also what I’ve done to them. In the end, for every experience I had with those women, I got to learn something about them and women in general. The third experience might be the most important one.

On the first experience, I free myself of being tortured with her sentence and perhaps her lies of being happy with me, and she was freed from me who may cause her to suffer in the future. The memory of being together often popped up in a random occasion which always cause me to get “feeling attack”. After all, 5 years in relationship was not a short period.

On the second experience, I still don’t understand why she didn’t told me that she already had a boyfriend and happy with him. Why wouldn’t she just be honest about his condition. Is it because she is clueless about what I have done to her? The worst of all is that I don’t understand when she said that she would marry with another rich man instead. Not sure if it was just a joke or a serious statement. Still, the relationship for me isn’t something that could be easily used as a joke. It will simply determine your future. One wrong sentence may ruins your entire relationship like the first experience I have, but it depends on the people of course. It can be easily ruined if the man is kind of sensitive like me, but will be all right when he is an easy-going person. For such a young woman like her, perhaps relationship still just a joke, so let’s move on to the next.

On the third experience, I don’t understand why woman should state that she would be rather be — I apologize with this phrase in advance — an old lonely virgin woman, instead of try to accept her past and move on with the future. I will understand if she had ambition on being successful woman in career, but still that statement (want to be lonely without spouse or relationship for an entire life) may hurts herself. Couldn’t she just behave like a normal person when I try to communicate with her? Well, this is the first time I’m being harsh with a girl, perhaps it affects her decision to ignore me and stay away from me.

The third experience also open my eyes that you should never tell that you’re interested in a girl until you really want her to be your girlfriend, unless you’re a very handsome, rich or popular man. Also, although she doesn’t give me a pleasant experience, at least I got to know about myself more than the previous 5 years relationship I have. She might be lied about one thing, but I’m glad to know her since she is honest about her feeling towards me, and also she told me my flaws that I think I need to improve: too emotional, too pushy, too clingy when it’s about woman and relationship, too sensitive, and too noisy. Really grateful to know her, despite all the happiness from the past will not be able to repeated again.

Finally, I don’t intend to insult any women out there with this post. I believe many women out there have different attitude. And all women who I wrote here also have many good qualities that I known and also unknown to me. In the end, some girls will be incompatible with me from the beginning to the end, some will be perfect match initially and incompatible in the end, and some might be sucks initially but in the end everything will be better. I will not giving up my hope to have a nice and healthy relationship. I’m sure that in the right time and right place, I will find a good and nice woman that can be honest to me and accept me for the flaws I have, and I will also try to accept her honesty although sometimes honesty can be painful. Not to said that I may not just let her to simply accept me, with true love I believe I can also change myself to be a better person, man (not a boy anymore) and in the end, husband. Oh, and I think I don’t have any deadline when it’s all about marriage, I’m a free person in this matter. ^_^

PS: Oh, also I feel pity to people who said, “hey, remember your age” or something like, “you’re not a kid who should write about love anymore”, just because I write about relationship and love, please just ignore me because since now I will ignore your message. I am living the colorful life, with sorrow and happiness, and I’m not going to let myself down because of several people who judge me only by what they see for the first or second time without going deeper with me. :)

Oh, I just remember a phrase that I got from the third girl: “Woman may forgive, but never forget”. Same here, really, my memory is quite perfect for this kind of event and sometimes even haunted me if I made something regretful. However I’m curious about the second girl who easily forget something that I’ve said just several days ago. LOL. Doesn’t matter though, she might’ve been blessed with easily manipulated mind perhaps.

This entry was last modified on: August 11th, 2014 at 10:13

The Many Interests Man

Lately I’m really interested in many things and activities simply because I feel bored with my life for the last 6 months. Well, previously, when I have relationship with a girl, most of my time was spent with her, the remaining time will be spent in front of computer (or laptop), whether it was just for gaming, or browsed the internet. I don’t want to spend my time too much in something that might be unproductive simply because I’m a single man now. Rather I would learn many new things, that might be useful for my life in the future.

TL;DR. Here are the list of my interests and some of the aspects that may be useful from my perspective:


For some people, cooking is something that should be handled by woman, but I don’t like that way of thinking. Many professional chefs are men, and it means I can also do this, and perhaps proficient with this kind of activity. There are many things that you need to learn when you want to acquire this ability, such as cutting (vegetables or any ingredients), setting the ingredients, frying, boiling, tasting and perhaps washing :p Well, you need to keep your cooking and eating utensils clean, right?

Improvement aspects:

  • Patience, you need to wait ’till your dish cooked. If you are not have this virtue, just stop and let other people do the job before you make awful and inedible dish.
  • Accuracy, in cutting, tasting, time, measuring ingredients. Don’t let your dish too sour, too bland, or burnt.
  • Bravery, sometimes you have to feel pain from heat and knife cut, and it’s important if you have pyrophobia, or simply fear of fire or heat.
  • Knowledge, you’re not going to eat one kind of food for an entire month right? You have to make different dishes everyday, and you have to know where to buy the ingredients, how to cook, etc, unless your money doesn’t allow you to do that and you might end up eating instant noodles everyday.


The other unusual activity that might be chosen by a guy since gardening for many people is something that should be done by woman. This activity is somewhat dirty activity because you have to interact with many dirty material. The first is the soil, and then there is fertilizer that may come from some nasty material that you should not think about, and perhaps you have to interact with some “animals” like earthworm and bugs. However, in the end, your effort may pay back after the tree is growing big and produce sweet fruits, and the flowers blooms and spread the sweet fragrance to their surrounding. What’s more relaxing than looking at the colorful flower field, when eating healthy fruits? :)

Improvement aspects:

  • Patience, hey, trees, flowers and plants don’t grow in mere hours! They take about days, months or even years to be mature enough so you can see the fruit of your effort. Water and weed them diligently every day.
  • Knowledge, if you want to grow plants, the easiest way is throw the unknown seeds and pray there will be no pests, no bad weathers, no droughts, no floods, no disasters and they can live by themselves, and you just enjoy the output exactly like what you hoped for. However it’s not as easy as that. Usually different plants have different way to treat. So your knowledge should be broad enough to know how to shower your plants with love… Ummm, not love, just water.
  • Resource and time management, growing plants is not as easy as it’s heard. You need enough water, you need good soils, you need time to take care of them, and then the time to enjoy them. Fail on one of these, you might need to redo all over again from seeds. Make sure you have enough resource and time for the plants you grow.

Masonry, Carpentry and Construction

When cooking is associated with woman, then this one might be the most manliest things that a man can do (unless you are crazy enough to do more than this). The activities that you can do here are cutting, measuring, drilling and nailing. Not just stone, concrete and wooden material, but sometimes you have to deal with metal. Handling this kind of job would need strength and stamina, but they’re absolutely kinda easy when you have learned at least the basic to do them. For example, the first time I did drilling was several weeks ago, and I successfully drilled the ceramic and concrete on the kitchen to place hooks for cooking utensils without any issues. What I did was just looked at my father did the jobs some months ago, remember and copy the technique, searched the information on internet, and voila, everything was done.

Improvement aspects:

  • Accuracy, you have to measure your material before drilling or cutting it properly, because everything you do cannot be undone. Well, perhaps can be undone, but why undone if you can do something perfectly from the beginning?
  • Bravery, not all places are at the same level with your height, sometimes you have to use ladder and feel what’s the pain of acrophobia. Also the cutting tools are sharp, and the electrical powered one will sure hurts you if you are not careful enough.
  • Planning, almost similar to accuracy, some activity cannot be undone and some material will be garbage if you do mistakes. So you have to plan something properly before doing all of this.
  • Strength, do this and you will get more muscle for sure. Hey, moving materials from one place to another place is not easy.
  • Coordination, the worst thing you can have in this kind of jobs is injured, and it’s very important to have someone close to you when that happens. Your partner can also assist you in doing your job. That’s why many high risk jobs, especially in height usually done in pair, rather just alone.

Music (Guitar)

Okay, just let your mind empty for now, and start thinking, what the world would looks like if there are no music? … Well, some of you might say that it will be to calm, other may say bland, because music is simply the spice of life (besides love). As far as I know, one of the most affordable and accessible music instrument is guitar. If you can’t afford to buy a guitar, ask your friend, and you might almost get someone that have guitar with them from the first person you ask, or know who has one. You don’t need to think “I will be a guitar professional and be a master like Sungha Jung (YouTube personality)”, it’s might be too far, unless you’re fully serious to learn and to practice for many years.

Improvement aspects:

  • Creativity, in fact, music doesn’t need to be “as if” when you play an instrument, and when you singing. You can improve it with other notes, rhythm, speed, and everything else. It’s limitless, so why don’t you just release everything on your mind? Well, unless your room is isolated enough from your neighbor or you’re good enough, you should try to limit your improvement with volume and notes. :p
  • Accuracy, yup, this aspect reappears in this one once again. Notes and rhythm should be in sync, although you may use some improvement there. But still, the first thing before you improve yourself is simply do something as good as possible, and in the music, just follow the original notes and rhythm. Another note, in guitar, you have to move your fingers fast enough on the fret board :)
  • Flexibility and strength, this one combined as one, simply because in guitar you have to push the string with enough power before you can generate nice sound, and at the same time your fingers must be flexible enough to reach “difficult positioning” in many occasions.


Like this one, of course. This is not something new for me, in fact I have written many posts here and there, but stopped since I graduated from my college. Actually, writing is not just limited to do blog, you can also create novels, or write some story. If you have enough imagination, you can also end up as a script writer, for movies or games. Perhaps you can also be a reporter for citizen journalism which is popular lately.

Improvement aspects:

  • Creativity, letters going to a word; words going to a sentence; sentences going to a paragraph; and in the end, paragraphs going to a story. With enough creativity, you can create many things with your words.
  • Communication, sometimes you write for other people, so you must know how to communicate with your readers. No one like messy, unstructured, uninteresting articles. Write your things, and proof-read your writing before publishing it. Sometimes you have to receive harsh comments from your reader, so prepare yourself and just reply with reasonable answer so you don’t look like a fool. Well, those are advices from me, based on my experiences in the past. :p
  • Linguistic, in writing, you communicate using a language. If you feel comfortable with your primary or native language, so write with it. However you might want to try using different or secondary language to reach more audiences, perhaps English, despite of you knowledge and experience in those language. The world doesn’t end when you write wrong grammars or spelling errors; it’s end you when you surrender, when you have the chance to be success and learn more things.


As a (kinda) science geek, I love to experiment with many kind of electronics. It was a pity that I don’t get any tutorial in this field when I was in high school, though the junior in my school got it. Still, if you are interested in some activity nowadays, you can find many learning material on a world we known as internet. With electronics, there come times when you be electric shocked, no matter how careful you are in handling what you do. Actually, I’m also an electrophobia, which mean I feel the fear of electric shock even if I know it’s a low voltage. However after learning some facts about electricity, I can easily try to overcome that fear and be more brave about it.

There are several things you can do in this field, such as, soldering, build a circuit, learning physics, and in the end: programming. Nowadays you cannot do electronics without programming. Well, you can, but it wouldn’t be enough and enjoyable because the interactivity will be limited without any programmable code.

Improvement aspects:

  • Knowledge, oh right, you cannot do electronic carelessly of you might end up in blowing your circuit, components, or burn up your house. I’m serious here. Short circuit, especially in high voltage electricity is a real dangerous and might be lethal. You must have basic knowledge about electronics before you do this and that, and of course basic mathematics. And never play with high voltage electricity if you’re not a professional or electrician, which I mean always play with low voltage direct current (DC) tha’s below 12 Volt.
  • Planning, in electronics, one single mistake can cause mess in all your projects, for real. You don’t need to be over-accurate in electronics, for example when you measure the voltage or current, but you still need planning. Soldering is the part where you must plan before you messed up with your prototype board or the real printed circuit board. And if you have an electronic device that you don’t know any schematic of the circuit which you want to fix on, perhaps you may want to stop and let the professional handles it for you.
  • Careful, simply because playing with electricity might be lethal. Never play in high voltage if you’re not ready. And always check and recheck any component and devices (especially soldering iron and electrical cord) have been placed on the right position.


This is the most wrong interest I do in my life, and I regret this very much. Just kidding. Gaming might be addictive, but still everyone who do this should be able to control him/herself. Many researches [citation needed] found that playing electronic games can improve your ability in visual, cognitive and motor functions.  Of course it’s under certain condition: play in limited time and play games that’s useful. Many people also claim (including myself) that playing games may improve the linguistic ability, since many games are launched in English, so they force the players to learn English. Some games also teach people about history, some science, strategy and many more. Even some games are designed to teach the players not to surrender easily, simply because the difficult is ridiculously hard, or even perhaps seem impossible to be passed.

Improvement aspects:

  • Reaction and accuracy, many games force the players to react in both fast motion and high accuracy. First person shooter (FPS), strategy and rhythm games usually emphasize this aspects. Whether you shoot first, or your enemy will shoot your first in FPS. In strategy games, you have to plan some actions simultaneously and determine when to attack and when to defense. In rhythm game, you have to press the button in certain beat step, and at the same time tap your mouse or keyboard key in fast manner to get the perfect point.
  • Cooperation and interaction, lately many games are released as multiplayer games, i.e. you can play the game with your friends or even unknown people all around the world using internet connection. By playing together, the players have to coordinate each other and cooperate to win the game. Type of games that emphasize this aspects are MOBA like DotA 2 and League of Legends. Other type that might need interaction is MMORPG (search the abbreviation yourself), in which you might trade or do jobs together with people to accomplish your mission.
  • Multitasking and management, which usually happens in strategy game. You must move an army, then build your base, and then check your inventory, and keep harvesting resource around you, and at the same time build your defense. One wrong move and decision may cause chain effect that end up on losing the game, and you might be the target of anger from your partners.


The worst of the worst, the last of the last. As a programmer, of course this is what I do, and what I interested into. So why not place this in the top of the list? The answer is: “Why should I?”. Not much to talk about, let’s just move to the improvement aspects.

Improvement aspects:

  • Logical Thinking, programming without logic is simply magic. If you don’t like to use your brain and thinking all the time, stop being a programmer. That’s all.
  • Designing, programming without making a design (system design or UI design) is messy sketch, and you torture and kill your brethren that will read your code and continue your work by doing this. That’s all.
  • Tenacity, sometime when you compile your program for the first time, it’s error. Recompile the second time, it’s run perfectly. Recompile it for the third time, everything stops again. Unless you believe in black magic that can solve this problems, what you need is simply determination to find and solve the issues.


For today, that’s what I can write about the activity I interested in lately. You may want to try many things, especially if you are still young, and your future is still uncertain. On the worst case scenario, even when you are in hard time, you can do something rather than just being idle, and perhaps your interest might save your life more than what you expect. In the end, what you need to do the interests is determination and commitment. Without these two words, your interests will just fade away in several months before even you make anything useful from those interests. :) Hopefully I can also keep all my new interests burned up.

Hope you get about what I’m thinking and can start doing something that might interested for you. If in the future I have other interests, I will share them here, of course with my own comment and perspective. :) Cao…

Long Lost Memories

If this blog is a person, I think many people will be very surprised, and perhaps screaming when looking at this blog is revived again. And when I said again, it’s because I have revived this blog so many times that even me myself don’t remember anymore how many times I’ve revived this. Hopefully this one will be the last time I will be revived, at least I will try to populate this blog with some articles, unimportant ones more regularly, well, perhaps about my life, because lately I’m not in the mood to post something to technical or something computer related. I would rather write about my opinion about this world, about what’s on my mind, and about what’s going on around me. Perhaps you can say this is my diary… the public one.

Anyway, let’s move on to the main topic: The Memory.

This word — memory — might be a powerful word, whether for the bad or for the good. Every human poses the ability to record the event he/she encountered into their brain, and that event might bring happiness, or just sorrow. Some events can even trigger the fear, anger, hate, nostalgic feeling, etc. Well, in fact I just wrote many negative words in the previous sentence, because yes, it’s what happened to me. When I try to remember about the past, I might feel really desperate. It seems that I really happy in the past, but now I cannot reach the same happiness.

I had many friends where I could tell my story to, share my problem, always support me, and now they have their own business and almost never have any communication with me. Though I also meet many new friends, but some of them has been gone. Lately many of them is really like wind that just blew past your face, and go to somewhere that I don’t even know. Perhaps that’s what I call as temporary friendship or partnership.

Usually I just think, what I have done to deserve this. Will I just be lonely and never have a real friend? Then I realize that what I think is wrong, just plainly wrong. How can you get a real friend if you just stand there motionless just hoping that your “friends” will notice you.

Well, perhaps the way I thought was affected by many materials that I listened to. Too many literature or online articles (or perhaps just stories) that say real friends will notice you when you’re desperate and accompany you. However this is not true. Although there are some people who may do this, many will not. It’s not because they’re assholes or don’t care about you, but because they don’t know what happened to you unless you tell them what’s your problems. Friends are not telepathic creatures that may notice if you want to be accompanied or talked with. Sometimes they need sign, perhaps not a noticeable sign, but just slightly noticeable might be enough.

The issue is that even if I realize this problem and also the solution, I always fall into the same hole again and again. I try to learn and to improve myself in this area, but still the progression somehow is too slow, even sometimes I feel that it’s just walk in the same place, or backward. I always fall desperate when I feel lonely, and too many times I put “mask” on my face just so that I don’t looked like that lonely.

Ah, well, memories. Maybe I just need to move on. I might try it again and again, in hope there will be good results in the future. Maybe I just need to distract myself so those memories will not reappear again. Still after so many tries, sometimes that memory is popped up again, without any specific trigger. LOL. Perhaps I will live with those memories as long as I’m alive.

The memories are not just about friends, but many of them also about love, a word that cause many distraction in my daily life; and for me lately, it’s merely a word that only used by high-schooler or teenagers. Still, strange enough that I keep thinking about this word, just because I have broken up with my *cough* girlfriend, and now I’m single. I tried not to think about this, but when I met girls (or perhaps I should just call them women), this word will dominate my mind after just about 1-2 months of introduction and communications. I’m not really sure whether it’s love, perhaps just the need to run away from this loneliness. It’s been 5 years (and 2 months) I had a relationship before it was shattered, and even as for now when I wrote this post, it’s hard to forget the need of someone that I can depend on, who I can share my problem with, and finally support and comfort me.

I didn’t meet many women even after 6 months of being single. Perhaps just 2 or 3 of them, well, I’m sure only 3 of them. One of them is someone who I really attached to, a girl who I thought is perfect and nice. Actually, I’m still not sure if she’s the best of all women I will meet for the entire of my life. I always feels bad when I have to have arguments with her, but still I have many arguments with her. So many times I had tried to avoid quarrel, but so many times I kept doing it again and again, and so many time I had to apologize. The last time I really angry and disappoint with her, and I said something so bad (at least for me) that I can’t even forget, and still I don’t say apologize until now. That memories haunted me almost every night, but I tried to forget it. I just want to forget that guilty feeling. And as always, I failed.

I don’t know if there is something that I can do to fix that bad memories and patch up all the problems I’ve caused. Perhaps not everything should be fixed? Maybe I just need to stop caring about other people? I have lost many things lately, precious things from the past, friends especially. Many things those are can only be kept in the memory, but will never happened again in the future. Am I just a guy who live in the past? I don’t know. Perhaps I am. But even if I live in the past, I realize there is still future for me.

What I can do is to let the past be experiences for me. A painful experiences from my memories, that will keep reappear in my dream, on the lonely night.

PS: By the way, I’m so sorry if this post is really melancholy, despite of this is the first time I write in this blog again. I just write what’s on my mind. Perhaps this looked like gibberish, but everything I wrote above is what I have in my mind right now. And sorry for the bad grammar. It’s midnight now, so I can’t check what I’ve wrote right now. Enjoy! (As if you can enjoy a really bad post like this ~_~)